The adventure continues...

Ok, the practice date night was out of the way. I think that was in preparation for my night with the professional man. From our phone calls and emails I found that he was well travelled and had spent some time living in countries like Egypt and Spain. I thought this would make for at the very least some interesting conversation.

Oh the phone wires and the emails were going full blast for the nearly two weeks since we had connected on Yahoo. No photo there but as part of my open mind policy I was ok with that. We made arrangements for coffee on Black Friday--no pun intended there. Coffee then switched to dinner and a movie. I decided this time I was going to play it low key and wear jeans and a sweater.

I'm going to tell you here that I violated the number one rule of meeting online people I met this guy at his apartment. Yeah I know..yell at me and say dummy what in the hell were you thinking? I also left his address and phone number on my kitchen table and sent a message to a friend so she would know where to find the body.

He watched me pull in and park and told me to come in the door was open. I am so damn trusting but felt it would be ok, and it was. What I found at the top of the stairs was a very very handsome man. That was a real surprise. I got a quick tour of his apartment which looked like he was still moving in. I thought, you knew I was coming and you thought this would be ok? He had an incredible display case of artifacts from his visits around the globe and I was very impressed.

We went to a stir fry restaurant, very nice, good food and just across the street from the movie theater. He took one call during dinner--that bothered me just a bit. We walked across the street and bought the movie tickets and waited in the bar until it was time to head into the movie. There was a football game on so we talked about sports etc...

The movie was great, Dan in Real Life. I found myself chuckling during the movie and found it to be a fun chick flick and I was impressed that he seemed to enjoy it to. So far, so good, I'm enjoying this guy.

Back to his apartment, a glass of iced tea--I had an hour drive home after all. I soon discovered that his definition of open minded and my definition of open minded were quite different. We had talked early on that I wasn't looking for the typical soul mate blah blah blah..just a friend to do things with. We were on the same page with that..but when he suggested that perhaps we expand that to include other people as in SEX with multiple people I think I turned about 5 shades whiter. HOLY CRAP!!!

I can appreciate that we all have different life experiences and needs but this Dazzling chick had enough alarm bells going off that there could have been a fleet of firetrucks outside the door. He walked me to my car and I headed for home. I had a lot of time to think on that hour drive and realized quite quickly this is not what I had in mind. I called when I got home so he knew that I made it ok. I decided to sleep on it and send an email in the morning to say..ummm good luck with that, that's just not who I am nor is it something I feel comfortable with. I received a very nice and polite email back from him thanking me for my honesty and hoping that I would keep in touch from time to time.

I'm realizing that I have choices here, it's my option to say yes, no..or I'm not comfortable with that.

I made my profile public again today on Yahoo...I thought about just saying no this is a bad idea...but I'm not sure I can dismiss this and give up after these two dates. There has to be something somewhere in the middle of these two out there...

Oh, let the fun continue...

:o)

Dazzling