A new tact on trying to get to know the men that have messaged me this week. Two new people appeared on the horizon and both started messaging me using Yahoo Messenger. (Why do they come in twos? Am I building the feckin' ark here?) I've been using chat rooms and message programs for over 10 years this is an area I am comfortable in.
Guy number 1 is 8 years younger than me...with a soon to be 13 year old son. Guy number 2 is 9 years older than me and is a widow. Once again men from complete opposite ends of the spectrum. There have been some exchanges of messages guy number one is so needy that it is hard to watch, like watching a car accident really. He is also widowed, his wife died during childbirth (a sad story and normally I am drawn to those..but this is the web and I'm not sure I'm buying it).
I discovered during last night's conversation that he's been alone for 11 years. He has no friends, his son has no friends. Red flag..red flag...red flag... He's asking a lot of questions about me like when do I think I will be ready for a long term relationship again. How 'bout I'm not sure if I ever will be? His son needs a mom that knows how to make a family. Ok, I am a great mom, but I've raised my kids and I'm not wanting or needing to going back to being a mom. While chatting with him I receive an email...blah blah blah..I am so beautiful...rolling my eyes. During the conversation he asks if I have responded to his email yet? Ummm no, I have been chatting with you here. I responded back this morning..told him that we weren't looking for the same things..good luck, you are a great guy there is someone for you out there...
...but it's not me. Seriously what part of " I honestly am not looking for a soul mate, a marriage or a long term relationship--not at this point in my life. One can't predict the future, but for now just having someone to share an evening and some witty conversation would be spectacular." is not coming through here?
Guy number two I am enjoying, he makes me laugh and he's in no rush to meet. That's a gold star for him.
I am shaking my head, still not giving up but finding this more an exercise in what the dating world is in my corner of the world...not much there.
Dazzling
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